|Emily AC: Multi-Talented Comedian||
Relationships can be tricky if you don't bother to study psychology. What's funny is... when people see you as the advice guru, they don't want you at their parties... why???
Because when people want to use you for a pity-party... they want to keep their crazy antics a secret from you. And they don't care about when you need a shoulder to cry on... you have to cry on your own.
When you try to get these people to spend time with you--just to enjoy the company... the answer is 'no' because your kind of fun and their type of fun are two different things.
My sister is a person like this. According to her... she's not a party girl, anymore... I don't even slightly believe her! HOW can every other aspect about her be exactly the same and she's not a party girl???
Yeah... people find out that I don't like to gossip... they find out that I like to look at both arguments before making a decision... and they also learn that I won't have their back if I think they are in error... they also, usually, don't like that I'm an atheist. Theists say I would always be fine and dandy if I would just accept religion... (that's what the Jews during the Holocaust thought... and that's what Christian Africans think as they starve to death and die of AIDS daily... nope--religion doesn't make life GOOD).
My husband, however, seems torn. He says that he understands what I say and agrees with me... but he is fighting his programming! He still falls back on it, sometimes.
He thinks that me gaining attention means that someone will steal me from him... he also assumes everyone thinks terribly of me when I go on stage... because he came along twice when I was just going out and the crowds were dead.
He never saw the transformation of dead assholes to lively and encouraging crowds. The only reason why the dudes ever gave me trouble is because he never wanted to go. If he were really that concerned--then he should've gone with more often!
I know how to handle people. I know how to handle him. I just wish he would get that if I wanted anyone else... it would've happened, by now! 'Cuz he's dealt me some shit (he knows what it is).
anyways... I get a bit of issue in my marriage because my husband doesn't get that men act differently to women than they do to men. He often says, "no, they don't." Then I want to laugh, hysterically, in his face.
It's like, "You sure? Did you treat me the same as your buds when we first started dating?"
The thing he doesn't get is the rape shit because he has no desire to rape. He will never understand why a man would want to rape, at all!
This is why nice guys make me mad, too. There are so many that assume the woman makes the man rape her... not true. Women never ask for rape! Fuck you!
I love my husband and I'm devoted. We'll work through every problem unless he takes it upon himself to divorce me. He always listens and works things out with me when things get tough.
That's why he's special. That's why I got thin for him. He helped me become happy... and figure out how to fully map human emotion. My marriage means more to me than anyone could ever know... and I don't care how many men are not "impressed" by him.
He impressed me. Hopefully, I'm the only one he wants to impress... as HE is the only one I want to impress :)